I don’t have a thing to wear! How to dress better when you don’t know how

“I was standing in front of my wardrobe and didn’t have a thing to wear.”

said by every woman

I wonder whether you identify with that statement.

Does it resonate with you?

You’re standing there in front of a lifetime’s worth of clothes

And you don’t have anything to wear.

But let’s just unpack that statement for a minute.

What do you mean when you think to yourself,

“I don’t have a thing to wear”

Do you mean,, “I don’t have the right clothes to wear”,

Or, “I don’t like any of my clothes.”

Or, “I can’t fit into any of my clothes”.

Or, “I hate my life and my clothes are just making it worse”.

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Practically speaking you probably do have something to wear. But emotionally speaking you don’t want to wear anything that you have.

Why is that?

Let’s turn it around.

How would you feel if you did have something to wear?

What would you do differently?

How would you show up each day?

How would you feel?

Would you feel empowered, relaxed, powerfully, energised?

Would it change your life?

Why you think you have nothing to wear

When you go to your wardrobe/closet and think you have nothing to wear, what you are really saying is, “I don’t want to feel like I feel right now”.

So when you get to your wardrobe, as you will do most days, and you think a thought like I don’t have a thing to wear, the chances are that you are already thinking something that is not pleasing to you

So, if you walk to your wardrobe and you are thinking, “I look awful, I’ve definitely put on weight, I don’t think I’ll fit into anything”, then guess what?

You won’t find anything to wear.

And the reason is that you don’t really want to feel like you are feeling.

Because you are already thinking a thought that you don’t really like.

I mean, who wants to feel fat, or think that they look awful or as if they’ve failed because they’ve put on a pound or two?

Not me and probably not you either.

So then think of this scenario for a moment.

You walk towards your wardrobe, you’ve slept really well, your hair looks great, your body feels great, you’re excited for the day and want to wear something that makes you feel amazing. You open your wardrobe and your clothes are all clothes that you love wearing. You reach out to pick one of your favourite outfits.

How does that feel? Doesn’t it feel better than the dread you sometimes feel when you walk towards your clothes in the morning?

So what is the difference between the two? What is the difference between the woman who dreads going to her wardrobe and the woman who loves walking towards hers and picking out an outfit she loves?

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What you wear is all in the mind

The simple answer is that it is all in your mind.

The difference is in your mind.

It’s not to do with your weight, your height, your income, your job, your spouse or body shape.

It’s to do with what is going on in your mind.

The problem is that sometimes we are not aware of the thought that we are thinking. Especially if it is a thought that we tell ourselves all the time (you know, the thoughts like “you’re not looking your best.” “You’ve put on so much weight”. )

How to discover what is going on in your mind

At Wardrobe Journaling we use journaling techniques to help you figure out what is going on in your brain.

It’s amazing how even quite simple exercises can help you access thoughts that you didn’t even realise you were thinking. And when you’ve uncovered them you can work on them. Keep the thoughts that are helping you and discard those thoughts that no longer serve you.

So when you say, “I don’t have a thing to wear!”

What you are really saying is, ‘There is something wrong here and I don’t want to feel this way, uncomfortable and out of sorts so I’ll throw my toys out of the pram/have a little tantrum with myself and then maybe I’ll feel better’.

The only problem with that is that you probably won’t feel better.

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How to use Wardrobe Journaling to discover what you are thinking

This is where journaling comes in.

Journaling, and specifically Wardrobe Journaling, asks you questions and you answer them. It’s as simple as that.

But the type of questions we ask you are designed to get an answer from you that will help you address why you think you don’t have a thing to wear.

Questions about what you are wearing today, what you wore yesterday, how you feel about yourself, what you’d wear on a perfect day.

If you’d like a taster of what you could discover about yourself in Wardrobe Journaling that would help you understand why you think you don’t have a thing to wear then sign up for our Wardrobe Journaling toe dip. Even the toe dip will help you shift from not having anything at all to wear to ….

Well that would be my next question for you,

Who do you want to be in this new world you are going to create for yourself?

Who do you want to show up as each day?

If you did open the door to your wardrobe each day and love what you are wearing and love your body and just feel totally amazing and on top of this world

How would that look?

That is the goal isn’t it? You, looking your best, every day, feeling your best – healthy and happy.

And the way that you get there is this:

Work out what you are thinking.

Work out why you are thinking it.

Decide what you want to think.

Create that world for yourself, your new world.

Easy.

First things first.

Time to work out what you are thinking

Join the toe dip now and

Sign up to be notified when doors open for the Wardrobe Journaling course.

Either way you can’t fail.

And if you knew, before you started something, that you couldn’t fail, you would definitely do it wouldn’t you?

So don’t wait. You can’t fail.

Change your thoughts. Change your clothes. Change your mind. Change your life.

It’s as simple as that.

See you in Wardrobe Journaling.

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